Videos uploaded by user “Todd V Dating”
Steal My Lines - How To Show Intent
http://toddvdating.com/lines to download the lines in this video in the order listed. I know the title is "steal my lines" but I hope you guys do some thinking on the structure of the document and the nature of the lines rather than just blindly repeating them. That's where the real improvement will come from.
Views: 201947 Todd V Dating
Motivation For Newbies - What The F*#K! Is The Alternative
https://toddwinnergame.com A lot of guys are scared of approaching and frustrated by the process of getting good at game. You know what scares and frustrates me? Quitting on myself and NOT getting good. And it should scare you to. It should scare to to action... and ideally it should scare you to excellence.
Views: 38057 Todd V Dating
When To Move On -- Dealing With Flaky Girls
http://toddwinnergame.com The question of when to move on is one I get asked often, and it's interesting not only from a strategic perspective, but also from a psychological one. Here is my take on "moving on" for beginners and for more advanced guys. For more great inner and outer game, check out http://toddwinnergame.com
Views: 56260 Todd V Dating
Text Game -- From Number To Date Step By Step
Why do you suck at texting? Well, there are probably a lot of reasons, but one of the main ones is you don't understand the motivation behind her texts and you don't know what type of reply is merited. This video solves that, and provides a foundation for text game in general. If you want more insanely useful and actionable dating info, check out my new site: http://www.toddvdating.com/blog/
Views: 421806 Todd V Dating
The P Word -- How to "Show Intent" the Right Way
http://systembytodd.com Showing intent is probably the biggest sticking point for 90% of guys I coach. Either then never let the girl know that it's a man to woman interaction, or they show interest in obvious ways that kill the sexual tension. Enter the new concept of "Premise"... the solution to the intent dilemma. See more in the video: http://systembytodd.com
Views: 112651 Todd V Dating
How to SHOW INTEREST but keep her CHASING
http://systembytodd.com The paradox of showing interest without giving your power away has long been one of the biggest questions in game. This seeming contradiction was the reason for the introduction of the term "premise" which has revolutionized game and helped thousands of guys get better results. However as people came to understand this idea, more and richer questions have developed... so let's dig deeper into what premise is exactly.
Views: 164574 Todd V Dating
If my channel is taken down, this is why...
I've tried really hard to keep this channel about teaching you skills and attitudes that will help you in life. However, once again, my ability to do so has come under attack. I've tried to keep this brief and focus on the parts most relevant to you. Apologies in advance for even having to bring this situation up. If you want the full story, it's a matter of public record and will be continuously updated as more information comes out. https://www.courtlistener.com/docket/6194386/vandehey-v-real-social-dynamics-inc/ https://www.pacermonitor.com/public/case/22296890/VanDeHey_v_Real_Social_Dynamics,_Inc_et_al https://www.leagle.com/decision/infdco20171005i22 https://www.docketbird.com/court-cases/Vandehey-v-Real-Social-Dynamics-Inc-et-al/nvd-2:2017-cv-02230
Views: 108089 Todd V Dating
The Opening Series -- Part 3: Situational Teases & Framing
http://www.toddvdating.com This is one of the absolute best openers and probably my personal favorite, when it's possible to use it. It just puts you in such a good position in the interaction immediately! Check it out and be sure to check out the other videos in the opening series as well: https://youtu.be/050mAG7O4LY?list=PL76nuCstxs7jpcbJ3B5Cbrs7-4gTwjBWF Finally, if you haven't yet, check out my brand new blog at http://www.toddvdating.com
Views: 113859 Todd V Dating
How To Show Interest Without Being Needy
http://systembytodd.com The great paradox of game. You need to move the interaction forward (which generally means the girl needs to know you're interested), but showing interest makes you appear needy, (which is a huge turnoff). What's the solution? I give three solutions in this video. http://systembytodd.com
Views: 168929 Todd V Dating
A message for hard-case newbies
https://toddwinnergame.com I'm not a big fan of telling people what they want to hear. I like to tell people things that will actually help them. As such, here is my tough-love advice for the "hard-case newbies" out there. You might not enjoy hearing it, but I promise you, it's important. https://toddwinnergame.com
Views: 36059 Todd V Dating
How To Find The Right Game Style -- Power Vs Control
https://toddwinnergame.com Almost every student I see has game that falls into the category of "way too hard" or "way too soft". Almost nobody has balance, and that's a big reason why almost nobody gets results.
Views: 45802 Todd V Dating
The Opening Series -- Part 2: Observational Openers & Improvisational Humor
We're back with the second video in the opening series, and one of my favorite and most common types of openers. Observational/situational openers are a great example of having canned formats without canned lines, which combines a lot of the effectiveness of both canned and uncanned ("natural") styles of game. And situational teases are an invaluable part of game in general, not just opening!
Views: 162545 Todd V Dating
How To Practice Game At Home
http://systembytodd.com The early-bird discount is over, but I still want as many people to have access as possible, so it's available at a reduced price for a very limited period of time: http://systembytodd.com This video is about LEARNING game, which is one of the most critical parts of getting success, and something that is rarely addressed. These exercises and many more are included in The System: http://systembytodd.com
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How Nice Guys Can Finish FIRST
http://systembytodd.com Nice guys don't finish last, because they're nice; They finish last because they are exhibiting low value traits. If a guy is ALWAYS nice, it can come off as a coping mechanism, or a manipulative tactic. Girls don't want assholes either, though. What girls do want is a 'high value' guy with good intentions. That is, a guy who could get away with being an asshole, but chooses not to. Hope this video opens some eyes. http://systembytodd.com
Views: 55256 Todd V Dating
What is "High Value" Anyway?
For my in-depth blog on this topic, go here: https://www.toddvdating.com/what-does-high-value-mean-anyway It's widely acknowledged that being "high value" is important in game, but what is "high value" anyway? There are a ton of theories and a ton of understandings and misunderstandings, but here's my take based on two decades of experience and backed by science. For more information on putting this into practice go here: http://systembytodd.com and here: https://toddwinnergame.com
Views: 53568 Todd V Dating
3 Major Pulling Mistakes + How to Fix Them
http://systembytodd.com I see so many pulls ruined by stupid decisions... program after program, student after student. So I had to make this video for my own sanity. Please, please don't make these mistakes! When you have a girl who likes you and wants to go home with you... please don't fumble on the one yard line!
Views: 69081 Todd V Dating
Immersion Debrief -- Integrity and Frame Control
One of my assistants filmed a debrief during the Miami Immersion program a couple of months ago, and I thought the content was very worth sharing. I talk about frame control and integrity in a way that I really haven't before. For more of my insights, head over to https://www.toddvdating.com
Views: 32083 Todd V Dating
Why "Showing Intent" Is Ruining Your Game
This should really go under the heading of "truth about pickup", but in this case, I don't think there's anything manipulative going on... I just think most people teaching pickup have no idea what they're doing. In any case this is one of the biggest student sticking points I see OVER AND OVER AND OVER. For more, be sure to check out My New Blog: http://www.toddvdating.com/ and my Free Course: https://toddwinnergame.com/
Views: 461020 Todd V Dating
Can you ever really trust women?
I've seen it over and over again. A guy goes from being a beginner who isn't getting very many girls but is largely happy and optimistic, to an intermediate or advanced guy who distrusts, and even hates, women... and who isn't really happy. Women do cheat, and women do use men... but that said, they can also be some of the most amazing parts of one's life. So is there a way to have the good without the bad? http://systembytodd.com https://toddwinnergame.com
Views: 70391 Todd V Dating
The 5 MAJOR Traits That Make You ATTRACTIVE
Technique is great, but it'll only get you so far if you don't know what an attractive man is or how to be one. These are the top five qualities that will help you be just that. And these work in ALL situations... not just cold approach. The same is true in social circle, online, wherever you may meet girls.
Views: 110443 Todd V Dating
6 Secrets to Healthy Relationships on Your Terms
https://www.toddvdating.com I spend a lot of time on this channel teaching how to meet girls, but I don't spend nearly as much time addressing how to have the types of relationships you want with them. What makes the difference between a girlfriend and a girl you just hook up with? What dictates the rules of the relationship? That's what this video is all about.
Views: 110636 Todd V Dating
How To Turn Around ANY Rejection
http://systembytodd.com Everyone gets rejected... though it does happen a lot more if your game sucks. But the ability to turn around a rejection on a consistent basis can have a huge impact on your results... especially with the very hottest girls who tend to reject guys very frequently. It's an "advanced" skill, but it's not actually that complicated. Here is how I do it on a regular basis.
Views: 83244 Todd V Dating
Are you self-sabotaging your sex life?
https://toddwinnergame.com When you talk to girls, are you actually playing to win? For most guys, the honest answer is probably no. I mean sure, you'd "like" to succeed, but do you "want" it? And more importantly do you want it MORE than you want to feel comfortable, or MORE than you want to stroke your ego, or MORE than you want to avoid dealing with insecurities? Whatever you want most is what you'll likely achieve... so be very aware of how your motivation is dictating your results.
Views: 58480 Todd V Dating
My First Date Ever - Embarrassing Field Report
I thought it might be a good idea to add some field reports to the channel because a lot of guys learn well from them. However, rather than start with something impressive and earth-shattering, I thought I'd start with one many of you can probably relate to. For a look at where my game has progressed since this embarrassing date, check out the infield video at: https://toddwinnergame.com
Views: 34022 Todd V Dating
How To Get A Solid Number -- The First Step In Text Game
http://toddwinnergame.com People keep asking me for texting videos... and those are coming, but in order to text effectively, you need to get solid numbers in the first place. So consider this STEP ZERO in text game.
Views: 65526 Todd V Dating
From Beginner To Advanced -- What To Do At Every Level
http://www.systembytodd.com Many times, the advice I'd give to a beginner is the exact opposite of what I'd tell an advanced guy. And then there might even be a third different option for an intermediate guy! This paradox can make learning game difficult and confusing, but it really shouldn't and doesn't have to. Beginners, intermediates and advanced students should be doing different things ON THE SURFACE, but on a deeper level, there are fundamental principles of game that apply at all levels, and when you understand these principles, the apparent paradoxes go away. http://www.systembytodd.com
Views: 43899 Todd V Dating
Why Learning Game Is Hard -- Two Ways Your Experience "Tricks" You
I've been noticing two types of thinking, in the comments on videos and the questions guys ask me, that are absolutely terrible for learning game. The tendency toward adopting black and white (binary) models of the world, and a phenomenon I call "leveling" create a lot of situations where people's own experience steers them wrong. Obviously until such things are corrected, learning game can be extremely difficult. The video I'm referencing comments for, btw, is this one: https://youtu.be/UQGBDNdlU3I
Views: 45434 Todd V Dating
How To Get Your Ex Back
How to get your ex girlfriend back... I get asked this question sooo much, so I finally caved in and answered it. Even though I think even trying to get your ex back is generally an awful Idea. More on that, as well as on how to do it if you're determined to, in this vid. http://systembytodd.com
Views: 30224 Todd V Dating
The Silent Power of Narrative to Get Her Chasing + Infield
https://systembytodd.com A lot of guys get girls giggling, a lot of guys get big reactions. Some guys get attraction based on excitement or "buying temperature" or emotional spikes. But that sort of attraction fades quickly. If you want things to last, you need a story behind the attraction. You need narrative. For more, check out: https://systembytodd.com
Views: 108057 Todd V Dating
How To Get A Girlfriend (The SMART Way)
http://systembytodd.com There has been a lot of talk about how to get a girlfriend lately... and a lot of it has been either flat out wrong, or highly cynical and nihilistic. Getting a girlfriend isn't primarily about gimmicks, it's about bringing value to the interaction and the relationship. Loving women rather than hating them also helps ;)... Beyond that, techniques and frames do help, so all of those pieces are included in this vid. http://systembytodd.com
Views: 141470 Todd V Dating
Do Pickup You Can Be Proud Of -- Good Vs Bad Social Conditioning
https://toddwinnergame.com There's a lot of talk in the pickup community about "breaking free of social conditioning"... but is that really what you want? A lot of social conditioning is actually GOOD. It's how we adapt to live in the world with people. So rather than blindly rejecting social conditioning, let's think things through and get rid of ONLY the social conditioning that's harmful.
Views: 37851 Todd V Dating
Why You're Not Getting Your Goals in Game
http://systembytodd.com Having been "in the game" for nearly two decades, I've seen a lot. And one of the most depressing sites, is a guy who's been working hard for years and isn't getting results. The problem, most of the time, is that he doesn't have a plan, or he doesn't have a plan that matches his goals. Good effort without a plan, good tactics without a strategy, is doomed to fail.
Views: 27557 Todd V Dating
Grow Up! -- Why Maturity Is Necessary For Success
Being a kid is fun, an nice and relaxing... but on a fundamental level it's not ENOUGH to get you success. There is a certain mentality of adult responsibility that you need to embrace if you want to achieve big things. It's not fun, but it's necessary. My New Blog: http://www.toddvdating.com/ and my Free Course: https://toddwinnergame.com/
Views: 51992 Todd V Dating
What Women REALLY Want - The Truth About Female Psychology
http://systembytodd.com Any time you compare women and men, it's likely to be controversial... but it's a FACT that men and women are different. That's why there are two different words ;). The physical differences are obvious, but there are also psychological ones. And if you're expecting women to act based on male nature and psychology, rather than understanding the unique outlook of females, you're often going to be disappointed and confused. http://systembytodd.com
Views: 79479 Todd V Dating
Why Skill Is The Key To Greatness
http://systembytodd.com There is a lot to be said about desire, mentality, attitude... but without the requisite skills, all of these things are often useless. Preparation and intelligence will be the defining factors in long-term success. In this video, I discuss these concepts from the home of one of the most successful sporting franchises on the planet, FC Barcelona. http://systembytodd.com
Views: 22426 Todd V Dating
My Take On "Masculinity"
https://toddwinnergame.com This is a new series for my channel. I'll be periodically taking questions and giving my candid answers to them. I'll try to pick questions I have a unique answer to, and I'll try to pick questions from the comments of a previous "ask Todd" video... so be sure to let me know your questions below. Oh, and do check out https://toddwinnergame.com ... it's both amazing and free!
Views: 29960 Todd V Dating
My Favorite Places to Meet Women
https://toddwinnergame.com Having good game is the first step in crazy success with women and dating, but it's not the whole story. There are tons of strategic decisions that can magnify your success. One of the biggest of these is venue selection. Where do you choose to meet girls. Picking the right bar or club... or daygame location... or social circle scenario FOR YOU is huge. Find out how to optimize your game in this video.
Views: 55650 Todd V Dating
The Outer Game of Inner Game
http://systembytodd.com Inner Game vs Outer Game. The age old debate... which is more important and where should you focus? Whenever there is a paradox, a good place to start is re-examining your assumptions. In this case, the question you should consider is IS THERE EVEN A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO? In a lot of ways, and most of the practical ways, the answer is no! I go into a lot more depth in the video, but in both cases, game comes down to one thing... ACTION. Whether you're dealing with inner game or outer game, what you're really dealing with is right actions. This unifying principle is the key to the entire debate. http://systembytodd.com for more
Views: 28537 Todd V Dating
The Truth About Canned Game And Routines
https://toddwinnergame.com There's a myth in game that "canned game", meaning repeating things you've said before, is somehow bad game or manipulative or disingenuous. Well, that's only if you're doing BAD canned game. Let me tell you a little bit about the RIGHT way to use lines you've used before.
Views: 25182 Todd V Dating
My EASY Step-by-Step System for Getting The Girl (+infield)
https://systembytodd.com So excited for the release of this. The biggest mistake I see over and over in game is lacking a system. Aimless sets that go nowhere, constant social errors, years with no progress... should be a thing of the past. You should be getting CONSISTENT results and improving each and every time you go out. I want to show you how. https://systembytodd.com
Views: 206431 Todd V Dating
Why I Hate Self Help
I hate self help! That's right. You read it correctly. The phrase "self help" makes me cringe... not because it's a bad idea in theory, but because of what it typically means in the real world. The BS that gets peddled, the victim mentality it tends to created, the excuses and magic pills... such a shame. Because self-improvement and skill development are two of the greatest things you can do... and that's what "self help" SHOULD be about. Check out https://toddwinnergame.com for Inner Game help that isn't for losers... and is completely free!
Views: 39466 Todd V Dating
Why Girls Love Low-Energy “Introvert” Game + (Infield Video)
https://www.toddvdating.com I'm a big believer in the idea that game should be effective, rather than just look good. Big flashy moves get big flashy reactions, but they also call attention to the fact game is going on, and they feel unnatural to the girl and her friends. Learn why low-energy game is more effective, and how to implement it.
Views: 227791 Todd V Dating
Hollywood Vs. Real World - Does Ryan Gosling Suck With Girls?
https://www.toddvdating.com When I did the breakdown of Hitch here: https://youtu.be/dlFnNcWu6c0 a ton of people requested I break down some other movies, and by far the most popular was Crazy Stupid Love; so here it is! One of my all-time favorite movie pickup scenes. So how legitimate and accurate to real life is it? And does Ryan Gosling have game? Also check out http://systembytodd.com for the most in-depth technical understanding of game you'll find anywhere
Views: 146774 Todd V Dating
Words That Get Me Laid
https://systembytodd.com 24 Hours Left To Get THE SYSTEM At The Discounted Price! The words you use make an enormous difference in your results. Some words are dealbreakers, and some words are just non-sexual. Lean the words that make your interactions man-to-woman and set the frame in your favor without giving away your power or being try-hard. This one one of the subtle secrets of advanced verbal game. https://systembytodd.com for more.
Views: 216505 Todd V Dating
Conversation Topics That Lead To Sex
http://systembytodd.com What should you talk about if you want an interaction with a girl to actually go somewhere. There are some topics that are platonic by their nature, and some that inevitably lead do more intimate or sexual conversations. This is one of the best, and most subtle ways to escalate things. Learn which topics these are in this video. http://systembytodd.com
Views: 358410 Todd V Dating
Winner Game -- The Tom Brady Mindset
https://toddwinnergame.com I'm a huge fan of people and teams who win in sports, as I believe athletic competitions are a great metaphor for life. Tom Brady, Bill Belichick and the New England Patriots have been such an organization over the past decade and win or lose today, they're an example worth learning from. As much for the fact that they'll accept no excuses whatsoever regarding their performance today as the hard work and dedication they've put in beforehand. They've truly "decided to win".
Views: 26696 Todd V Dating
How to Pick Up Girls In Groups + Infield Video
http://systembytodd.com Most of the time hot girls are with groups rather than alone when they're out. Simultaneously, most guys don't approach girls in groups. Most guys don't even know how. Sooo... if you want to massively increase your opportunities, if you want to stand out, and if you'd like to have access to girls nobody else can pick up... you need to learn how to approach groups!
Views: 82121 Todd V Dating
What Hollywood Gets Right About Attraction - Dating Coach Breaks Down Vanilla Sky
http://systembytodd.com As I was looking for good pick up scenes from movies to break down, I found something interesting. Most of them are highly abbreviated. There is often a quick moment of spark, or brilliant wit, and then they cut away to triumph and connection.... and the actual pick up scene is missing. The people who made Vanilla Sky did the opposite. They actually included MORE of the scene than I could fit into a video. And they actually wrote it very well! Here is the breakdown.
Views: 53136 Todd V Dating
The Nightgame Gameplan: How I Win EVERY Night
http://systembytodd.com How to run your night. Where to start, who to talk to, how to manage your emotions all the things that go on in between interactions that make a huge difference within interactions. Here are some expert strategies for insuring you have a great night (or day) every time. http://systembytodd.com
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7 Days In Miami
Wanted to give you behind the scenes look at me and my crew and what we do. You've met JP in Winner Game and on my channel, but he's just one of my coaches who travels with me on our various adventures around the world. Lots of great "nuggets of gold" in this video about getting real success and how to learn game as well. Enjoy! and for more great insights, check out http://www.toddvdating.com
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