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This Brilliant Line Got Me to Call Instead of Text (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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►► Confused about what to text him? Just copy & paste these 9 FREE texts → http://www.9Texts.com ▼ Don’t Miss Out! Subscribe to my YouTube channel now. I post new dating advice for women every Sunday. ▼ ►► UPDATE: The scripts are ready for you now, grab your copy here: http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/thescripts/vsl/ I'm guilty… Like most men, I had fallen into the habit of only texting women instead of picking up the phone and calling. It’s quick, it’s convenient, and I assumed it was the preferred method to keep in touch between dates – that is, until I met HER… The woman who completely changed my mind. The woman who used ONE brilliant line to literally re-train me to stop texting and actually pick up the phone and call her every time. She didn't have to nag me, or even come right out and ask me… But this one thing she said stuck in my brain, raised her value, and made me want to treat her differently than all other women. I’m going to share with you this brilliant line in today’s video – it’s part of a crazy-simple, 3-step process you can use right away to get this same amazing result with the men in your life… I’ll also reveal the one thing you MUST have if you want to get past the first date and get asked out a second, third and fourth time… and I’ll tell you exactly how to get it. And don't forget to watch all the way to the end of the video, because I've got HUGE NEWS for you… Link to Early-Bird List: http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/thescripts/tellmefirst/ ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com ▼ Get My Latest Dating Tips and Connect With Me… ▼ Blog → http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/blog/ Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhussey
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Tatiana Neva (8 days ago)
You’re amazing! Thank you for all your work! Really love everything you bring about! It seriously helps me grow as a woman that I know I am 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Sara Abdi Fara (10 days ago)
Muzic Ana (11 days ago)
Thank you for this! 💚💚💚💚💚
ironbutterfly2222 (13 days ago)
Matthew, comparing confidence and competence will be a game changer for me. Thanks for sharing your gifts and knowledge. I will also steal this comparison to share with others
Tatiana Williams (21 days ago)
Good Stuff!
Jamie Chavez (25 days ago)
Why Is it that hearing your voice can leave me flustered even after we hang up
Lydia Forge (27 days ago)
MsCamilleB (1 month ago)
This is too much work! Like why can’t he just call ugh...lol these tips are helpful and I’m sure they work but it’s so exhausting
Meike Rieger (1 month ago)
She called you her pen pal, because you acted like a pen pal. Always, always serve the best to women.
Yuki KonAn (1 month ago)
Just tell The Guy that you like a men who calls. You dont like texting that much. Just be direct ladies. It works if the guy is actually into you and wants you to like him.
Shamel and Grecia (1 month ago)
All this time watching the video and imagen Camila Cabello....
Freedom Seeker Network (1 month ago)
haha thats hilarious...penpals...i love it. this woman is my idol
Maya M. (1 month ago)
How do you get competence? It doesn't come easy if someone is meant to be dumb :D
Nicki Fellow (1 month ago)
This video got the idea that you can train men like dogs and praise them for positive behavior 😂😂
Stef Godfrey (1 month ago)
It must be said and know that your work is single handedly the most important part of everyone's life that seriously needs to be focused on & valued more
Celia Cavalli (1 month ago)
Just side note for all the people sick of playing games: You don’t have to play games when you’re a quality person. Quality attracts quality
Diana Tsurov (2 months ago)
Or you can say...why don't you call me instead of texting. Genius, right?
andraaaw (2 months ago)
calling is a huuge step.. we should start with small progressive like voice messages
DaLeena Grace (2 months ago)
You are beautiful 🙃
Azuki Sakata (2 months ago)
The word PENPAL is amazing. Ty. I met a guy thru games online and he is very shy to use voice to communicate and had been very antisocial for the past few years. I used this word and said it playful and also encouraged him a lot and now we have no problem using voice calling each other now. Tbh it wouldn’t work if he doesn’t care about me fundamentally. But these words of choice are crucial to push guys to do the RIGHT THING.
Never Mind (2 months ago)
You know, I actually tell guys I'd rather text. I don't say why and they don't ask. I can take a few minutes to think about my answer texting, on the phone I can't take 2 - 5 minutes, or as long as I want. I can't stay on the phone with dead silence, and I have a deep voice that I don't like anyway. LOL Then they eventually say, can I call you? I say, yes. They tell me that they like my voice. Lol I hate talking on the phone, always did. In person, or texting, even with family or friends, that's me.
Lazix VonBerg (2 months ago)
When people are thrust into a survival situation, they default to the highest level they have mastered. Confidence is irrelevant when confronted with a performance situation. As master Yoda said, "Do or do not, there is no try." Life is pass fail, but the level of ignorance required to say "All you need is confidence." is absolutely staggering. Confidence not born from competence is hubris.
Thuraya Al-Nabhani (2 months ago)
The title does not do justice to this Video. It's about so much more.
bhavna karakoti (2 months ago)
Hi Matthew, can you help me with my love life?
Martina Sunflower (2 months ago)
Amazing ❤️
Casandra Moua (3 months ago)
How can I apply this to my 10 month relationship? I have no idea how to associate just texting w/ something negative so he would want to call me, and then make him feel good about it?
Noniruearts (3 months ago)
How do I go about being competence in this field?
INAYA ADEYE (3 months ago)
Guys are dumb
Kavya Singh (3 months ago)
What if he texts me , Got a miss call from you..hi ! And not actually call me 😅
Agnes Talplacido (3 months ago)
for me being real is still the real thing...just be yourself and if that person really loves you and really is for you then whatever your flaws are he'd accept you...being real will lead you to the right person...
Ungorgeousgirl (3 months ago)
Thank you, this video is as relevant as it was 3 years ago, I battle with the competence aspect especially when I have done my preparation, listened to the news, read books across the spectrum, made sure outfit is great and I look gorgeous BUT, when the guy has done none of the preparation to reciprocate ; I feel quite annoyed and get flustered as he assumes that he is just the "bees knees" however, is an empty vessel. I am told that I am a bore or know all which is incorrect and I walk away not wanting to invest beyond the first or second date. Now tips on handling the situation like the one described would be incredibly helpful. Thank you
M M (3 months ago)
Does it mean the woman has to do all the work? In this example She has to manipulate Matthew to call her. Seems like she spoon feeding a scared little boy! If he was really into her, would he not be brave enough to call her on his own initiative ! 🤔
J R (4 months ago)
The penpall thing is not something that I would say. Can I say he's Boring on text or is that to much 🤣
Che Bellion (4 months ago)
Could you do a video on the easiest and most soft-hitting ways to turn somebody down without getting their feelings hurt?
Nikki E. (4 months ago)
Are you still with THAT woman?
Kerry Foster (4 months ago)
Yes I rehearsed my wedding speech over and over again. It went beautifully. I rehearse everything which I need to do with people. It all helps to become competent!
Caron Torliak (4 months ago)
This is one of those videos that has a potential to change lives. As a guy, my mind has been blown when you spoke about structure and spontaneity. While I am not a very confident person, in social situations I just tend to tell myself just be you and if it doesn't work its not your fault. While on the surface that is not a bad idea but I have had many moments in my life where I felt unprepared for these situations - specifically, I had little control over what I want and should say. The story of "being the best dinner guest" is absolutely crucial as my naive self think people who are very likable and have these amazing stories to tell and when to tell them are rare as it is just in their nature. To my pleasure I was proven wrong. I will try now to bring structure to my spontaneity and balancing my own personality. Thank you Matthew!
Jaimin Varsani (4 months ago)
Am not nervous, but she doesn’t like people calling her. But then I realized that if her female friends calls her, she will accept them
Dr rowena Dalde (4 months ago)
In just curious..is it always have to be a sexual connection(?
veronica ossa (4 months ago)
How can i give this vídeo 100 million likes , damn . information really is power , motivation is great but education is a next level cuanticum jump
Jen Swash (4 months ago)
I've literally just said thisi to someone who only texted and only when they were bored etc .... I got tired of it , so I've just said that I'm very much over penpal syndrome .... It didn't make him call me instead , but he has disappeared which , looking at it positively, means he wasnt right for me and wasn't as into me as I thought he was ... because if he was , he would have called and stuck around. So I now move on.
Jiejie Z. (4 months ago)
Confidence vs Competence, Matthew, you not only just helped with relationship, but also with communicating my thinking in work, school and many aspects
Erica Sumile (4 months ago)
This is wonderful!
starlightlovev (4 months ago)
Okay what if he says he will be probably be able to call a different day???
Suz (4 months ago)
Telling a man that I'm interested in that we're "Pen Pals" this is genius. I'm gonna use this. Thank you Matthew for your wise dating advice.
DK Dempcey Knight DK (4 months ago)
I understand we are from different countries, but isn't the definition of "flustered" agitated, confused? A negative feeling? No! I am not trying to be a wiseguy, merely trying to learn what the word means to others.
Rena Akhundlu (4 months ago)
Matthew you are thinking too deeply as a guy. Most other guys are too stupid to get the signs
♡ Winterbird ♡ (4 months ago)
if I have to use tools to make him call me or act right, do I really want him? or do I want a man who is self aware and mindful haha maybe they don't exist though(outside of training).. outside of love coaches ;)
Terry Follaco (4 months ago)
So how to become competente. I not competente at all when it come to guys. It always scare me to open my frikking mouth. Coz I don’t know what it’s going to come out of it.
yu ouyang (5 months ago)
Show us your Exs in some videos, ok?
Hans Kuettner (5 months ago)
Is there something like this but for men? I've found a lot of the information useful and definitely gives me a new perspective.
x Rubyn (5 months ago)
I have a problem with the way you equal "competence" with manipulating people. I think you are right when you say "You just need confidence, screw everything else" is an oversimplification, but you did the same thing in this video. For me, the competence you need when it comes to dating and relationships, is not to know what to say and to do, to get the result you want. Because, as I already said, that's just manipulation. You need competence in communication. Also, the comparison of dating and working is a little bit problematic, because it implicates that you have to "earn" love. But the right person should love you unconditionally, just for who you are. That doesn't mean you can just act like an asshole, and your significant other has to accept it (that wouldn't be love, of course), but that you have the certainty, that you are accepted and loved, despite of all your flaws. And that means that you don't have to seduce someone, a relationship should be nothing you have to achieve. In my opinion that completely dismisses the core and the character of love and relationships. And one thing many people seem to have forgotten about, is the meaning of a relationships. Nowadays, so many people are seeking for someone who "makes them whole" and therefore have really high expectations. The problem is, the only person who can "make one whole" is oneself. We struggle with ourselves and seek salvation in love, but as long as we can't love ourselves, we will never find true fulfillment in life. And it is not the job of our partner to make us happy. Instead, relationships give us a great opportunity to grow and someone who walks with us alongside the way. It makes me so sad, to see how many people are suffering, because they think they are never enough, since we live in a society who values all the wrong things. I know I went a little off-topic in the end, but (although the video is 3 years old) i just wanted to share my thoughts. Also I want to clarify, that I don't mean any offense with my comment, these are just my two cents on the issue. To be honest I would really like to know your opinion, about the topics I touched on.
farha sameer (5 months ago)
Matthew,what am I doing here?i am married and have a kid!!but i love your videos and they are helpful even otherwise.they're full of wisdom!!
Maki Makica (5 months ago)
There is this guy who keeps sending msg all the time and promising to call me, so last time he promised to call i just put 10$ on his cell phone and told hem ..."Just in case you have no money to call " !!! I mean rely ...you want to call ,call me, if not stay away ...he stooped messaging thanks god !!!
Saumya Singh (5 months ago)
You gave me the reply to my own question through this video, thank you so much gentleman!❤️
Lu La (5 months ago)
I give up I’m going to go get the pet mouse I’ve been wanting...
K Deloris (5 months ago)
what happened to the days when a guy would call you because he had your number.
AmieAmie (5 months ago)
Listening to the Spontaneous vs. structure thing made me think that, that goes for life in general too. You need structure and somewhere "save" or "rehearsed" to return to, in order to feel confident and truly enjoy being spontaneous. Going to the airport and booking whatever flight boards next, requires knowing you have a good, solid base to return to. It requires knowing that if everything goes astray, you can always return home.
Marian Kotúč (5 months ago)
This is true also on a spiritual level. If you're connected to your "inner being", if you know yourself and you're truly aware, if you love life, maybe even if you trust some higher power, obsessing about what to say is silly. Suddenly you gain more freedom in your interactions because no matter what happens, it won't shake your inner being. As a guy I was always a bit awkward but as I matured in this way (and sadly also aged), some truly great people appeared in my life, people whom I wouldn't even register before. One of the great side effects is that I can now talk even to a stunningly beautiful woman and not really "want" anything from her or I can sit down with the mayor of our city and tell him that he's a corrupt asshole :)
britcoms81 (5 months ago)
Umm...I hate phone calls. I think I'll stick to texting!
Cecilia Black (5 months ago)
Matthew, this was your BEST video yet! And I ordered your programs! This should be the prerequisite for EVERYTHING else!!!!
Lea Gill (5 months ago)
I disagree with that being the height of arrogance, because these techniques are very useful but even if you “just got confident” (as if that was so easy!) and followed your instincts (i.e. listened to acted on them), you’d still get the same results, because you instinctively know what’s right and wrong for you but don’t always trust it let alone have the guts to act on it as you said! Therefore, if we did that we wouldn’t need these tips, these tips just help us get there - which is a lot because it’s hard!!
Tomas' Channel (5 months ago)
is there a girl version of this guide/channel?
Calida (5 months ago)
I loved this. Competence vs confidence is an amazing and such an important mind set!
itsmiasaunders (5 months ago)
I'll try this tomorrow and let you know what happens. Side note: what happened to the girl? Did it move to a relationship?
Carol (5 months ago)
I have you as a little genius in my head, so when I'm about to do something wrong I wonder: Hum... What would Matthew say? I think that helps me 90% of time. The other 10% I don't listen to you because make mistakes is part of life :D
Erika I am (6 months ago)
Subscribed. Thanks for the videos they're very informative.
Shwe Keep it up and (6 months ago)
I literally just called the guy but hung up in 5 secs because I got scared then he called me back straight away and spoke for over 15mins!! Woop success!
Lorraine Smith. (6 months ago)
I never return texts...ever...yuk..so childish.
Jazzy 2Girls (6 months ago)
Please create a video on why men string along a lot of women.., feeding them the same exact lines treating them the same exact way... saying he loves them all and wondering why some of them didn’t end up pregnant... he keeps up with all of them controlling them not wanting one to leave ....
rock angel (6 months ago)
This guy is a genius 🤓
Trojanette83 (6 months ago)
No matter 'how' one chooses to communicate within someone there's NEVER any replacement for picking up the phone and speaking to someone one-on-one. Sadly with the proliferation of electronics in our lives people have forgotten how to just pick up the phone .
Kinga Niamh Grozoni (7 months ago)
So...I talked to a guy on the phone...the problem was...he talks so fast that I didn't understand anything he said. So in my case he is the one who wants to call and I'm the one who doesn't. Help?
Crimson Castellon (7 months ago)
I've always believed in this, just never got a good way to explain it to others. Cheers!
Fiza Khan (7 months ago)
Hie .. The way u poured ure heart and soul in this clip to communicate and highlight the need for competence and practice to be able to communicate our wishes, feelings and desires eloquently .. Stay blessed mate ... Had I had ure advise when I was blundering through my marriage I would have still been married .. This is not the first clip I've watched nor the last ... And I hope these clips are going to save many hearts from breaking .. May the light be with u
TheHouseOffice (7 months ago)
Great haircut for him
Shivali Amin (8 months ago)
My problem is he is only doing msges daily..no calls..no meeting..May b 2/3 times in a month only..N den he is doing daubting on me..Coz he can t give me time..he can t come out in office hrs..but in weekends n in holidays also he is not coming for meeting..I'm fm Muscat..vl u plz guid me..
ann wit (8 months ago)
... we're like pen palls
Femke Muylaert (8 months ago)
Totally agree. Confidence is rooted in succesful experiences, and succesful experiences are based on skills. Confidence is the result, not the start of action. I am a singer, and it is profound, profound preparation and knowing my instrument that allows me to deal with nerves, not confidence taken from the air.
Lucyb Davies (8 months ago)
Who was that Camilla 🤣
kerly Fri (8 months ago)
Fingers crossed ,let me try
K Durand (8 months ago)
I have known this confidence-competence ratio but never met a competent man who wasn't so engaged with putting all that competent energy into work that there was anything left for a relationship. The expectations are unrealistic, like they expect a sexy confident domestic goddess who has a career job to be at their back and call, be independent and always there for them at the same time??
Cinnamon Rouge (8 months ago)
Every guy I ever tried to call, they reply with a text. Won’t FaceTime, won’t call back. Always some excuse
santi santi (8 months ago)
Are men really so insecure that they need a girl to do everything for them including boosting their ego all the time? Forget about men who are so complicated that they need a science to get involved with you, just find a normal, confident guy.
Hue Lu (8 months ago)
Stop over analyzing...
J Czar (8 months ago)
LMFAO His advice surprisingly does help. Even if you don’t know what you want. I couldn’t believe it. I was very confused about what I wanted after meeting a guy that is EXACTLY like me but I didn’t want to rush things and he did initially. I needed time but it’s been almost 3 months now and we’re doing amazing :) saw Incredibles 2 yesterday and it was fun as always!
Donni Zammit (9 months ago)
So basically it’s like training an animal 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Kuntalika Bhattacharya (9 months ago)
Why don't you teach men to be more Honest , generous, kind instead of teaching women to be strategic. Dear women please rise above these situations the moment u react to his texts or not calling he already has power over you. Just learn to empower urselves
fruity eva (9 months ago)
I love your videos soo much, thank youuuu!!🤗👌👌
Loren G (9 months ago)
I just saw your video. Thanks for your advice. I love your videos. RIP Anthony
Martina Ina (9 months ago)
Nice video Matthew hussey
Tubalemye Mutwale (9 months ago)
Hi Matthew, you can call me anytime. Tired of you just being a YouTube pal LOL.
Julie (9 months ago)
Awesome! well said
Alpha Logos (10 months ago)
Great video!
Nicki Marie (10 months ago)
I got the "pen is" pal?" response....
Carlota Amaral Dias (10 months ago)
Ann Pham (10 months ago)
I adore this Matthew. You are the best ever!
Laura Del Valle P. (10 months ago)
Rip Anthony Bourdain
nelly michelle (10 months ago)
You are brilliant ! Thank you for your content and amazing advice ! Love u
Jan G (10 months ago)
Why on earth is dating so complicated!?
Ezra Jade (10 months ago)
haha the generation now be like"yea we're like textmates" hehe... awesome awesome content.. and.. your voice is so sexy. 😍 your body is sexy. 😍 your attitude is sexy. 😍 Thank you for empowering women. 😘😘😘

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