Arum & Dawoon Kang teach us about the truth about online dating. No longer are we looking for significant others in the traditional avenue. We need to understand the fine points about the other venues we are using, online dating.
Arum loves being in the consumer space. She has experience working at Avon Products as well as Amazon, leading efforts to understand consumer needs and behavior to deliver superior product experiences. After graduating from Harvard Business School, Arum is excited to start a business that leverages technology to bring something truly valuable to consumers.
After wandering around for years trying to find her passion, Dawoon is happy to be finally working on a matter close to her heart, with & for people she loves! Prior to CMB, she lived & worked in Korea, Japan, New York, India & Hong Kong, in a variety of roles that spanned from strategy & business development, marketing, research to investing/finance. She is a proud graduate of Stanford Graduate School of Business.
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How do the two groups have the same average age and height if the two groups are those who are single and those who are not single. Is that not the same as just saying the average of the sample population? lol.
Age appropriate to date and marry according to Psychology Today:
Divide your age by 1/2 and then add 7.
Men by nature will always prefer younger women. Less mileage, not stuck in their ways and look fresher in the face!
The second speaker suggests that going to great lengths describing yourself makes you more attractive and likely to get responses. Writing has always been one of my strengths but I use it to no effect on online dating sites. For writing skills to be effective on online dating, there must be a receptive and appreciative woman reading what you write. In most cases, such a woman does not exist.
when dating sites first came out it was a very nice way to get to meet people.because of womens hypergamy and intitlment thinking it has turned into just another way to get layed and not take it serious.
I guess I'm the exception to the rule because for 8 years trying online dating, my profiles were always detailed and yet my profiles always seemed to get ignored, so yes I myself think online dating sucks. It really is just about wallet depth and looks.
My thought is that people are lazy and don't want to read. Before I saw this video my idea was to write a detailed profile. Not sure why women are only interested in money. I can understand why men steer towards looks. As for financial status, it is more attractive when a man is frugal and manages his money, whatever the amount, responsibly. Men with money can be terrible with their finances. My financial criteria is that a man should have no debt - unless it's a house or student loans. If he has significant debt, which happens, then no marriage, or he has to sign a prenup.
Her findings have already been found out documented and at the core of Men and women true basic nature. If you want to meet a partner join social groups Gym, Walking etc. start with something in common. and Go MGTOW ha
The truth is it sucks even if you do get a date. Think about it — meeting people in real life is a challenge for these people. Why? And if you’re a dude no woman should have a hard time meeting men in real life so let that be a warning
I tried online dating once, it didn't work. So I tried it again, and before I knew it - I ended up married, middle aged and with more in number than we had - when we met. Now what do we do!??? When everyone swore "online dating didn't work", there was no way I was expecting all this, as an outcome!
So, here is a harsh reality of dating and life. We start dating to find a friend, a companion, a lover in a person... But as any relationship gets serious and gearing towards marriage, finance do come into play as you both start managing your money together and eventually when you raise kids it's more important to manage money wisely. In my personal opinion a man and a woman should equally contribute to household. But there might be many people, who would stay at home for better upbringing of their children and since it's many a times woman's decision to do so, they naturally tend to seek men with higher income. This is my personal opinion and in no way intend to clash with people's personal opinion.
I have seen these sites that allow men to go look at profiles but ask you immediately to upgrade to premium account on a graduated scale that begins at six months of access for a lump sum of $100 dollars, on up. I refuse to pay, so I get to lurk. Do the women pay to post their profiles, photos, and send out messages? Do they have to invest upfront? I am trying to get myself dropped by these sites. A couple have let me delete my account, but I fear that I am going to have to endure spam for years now. These dating sites must be run by organized crime out of places like NYC, and it would take the FTC to put s stop to the scams.
also realized that people who go for online dating seem to get bored quite easily and would think they could do better and look for a new one immediately. When the spark is gone, when reality strikes in again, they go for a new one to go back to that honeymoon phase.
Unfortunately, we're moving to this direction whether we like it or not but I also believe that there are more pleasing people somewhere who also choose to stay out of online dating so not all of the people in your app are your left options in real life.
Personally had a lot of success in real life, but way less online. That's simply a law of supply and demand, ECO 101. In real life, and assuming a balanced location (ie not the silicon valley), the supply and demand for men and women is pretty equal. Therefore, on average, a 6 will get a 6 and a 9 will get a 9. Online, the equilibrium point is very different. The demand for guys is lower due to women's higher standards than men. The demand for girls gets higher. The supply of women drops compared to men due to the fact that there are more men than women on dating sites. (2x more on Tinder). The result is a shortage of women and a surplus of men for a shifted equilibrium point to the right, where women become more valuable. In this new market, an 8, man would get a 6, women for instance. So if you're a dude just don't waste your time on a saturated market. There are plenty of places with a reverse logic! ;)
I never reality the bs about how beautiful I am, etc, etc... I have beautiful friends, I am 5 foot, slim, and cute is the word:))).... I met my last partner online and we were together for 7 years, too bad he is a narcissist, a lot of narcissist are online. I say hello and actually talk and all the ones saying all the right things, I don't believe. I usually don't use very many words on my profiles, and I do not have a long list of what is perfect for me, I still don't know.,.my texts get longer any longer
Social media and dating apps have totally devalued men!
Girls have too many options and their expectations are way too high.
All the Young girls follow Kim Kardashian who are brought up with an entitlement mentality, just another tool for girls too get validation but because they are so insecure they don’t have the confidence to date. And that’s the sad truth!
And don’t even get me started on the animated filters they post up for their dating profiles with quotes such as ‘ I want a real man who isn’t fake’ these girls are so deluded it’s scary
The "too many options" issue supposedly goes both ways- and yet almost no one is making positive long-term connections anymore. They think that they can keep swiping forever.
Also- you think men have it tough- but an educated self-sufficient woman in her 30s has extreme difficulty in finding an "equal." More women are going to college, getting advanced degrees and so forth- the men just aren't keeping up.
There's nothing beautiful about online dating. She left out some of the worst graphs that would illuminate how for 80% of men online dating is a waste of time. Online dating for men is cancer. For women who are even modestly attractive it's attention and validation. Her answer as someone making a living off it is basically spend more time and energy on this massive time sink.
I have been using online and mobile dating apps for collectively over 15 years by this point. I have next to no success and have only managed to get a handful of coffee dates. I have for the most part, always tried to put a fairly in depth and interesting profile description (some sites like OKcupid for example make it easier/better to do this with their templates) and only a few times have I ever been commented on my efforts.
The plain fact of the matter is (at least how I've PERSONALLY seen and experienced this), is that it all boils down to "does your face fit?". That's it. Especially when it comes to (shi)Tinder and mobile dating apps. I see female profiles with zero information and maybe even only 1 or 2 pics. Yet I know just by default that they're getting message-bombed left and right.
I do agree with the part about why some people are afraid or cautious to put anything more than some very arbitrary text either on their profile descriptions or the messages that they send. But I have spent so many countless hours collectively messaging women and taking a genuine interest to highlight certain traits they might want in a potential partner, for example, to just get nothing back. Or a perfunctory "Hi" and nothing else. Seriously?!
The worst part of it all is that no matter how many times I throw my hands in the air and delete all my profiles and remove all the dating apps and swear down never to do that sh** again? Guess what? Loneliness and desperation comes knocking and I realise that seeing as trying to meet someone in real life CLEARLY isn't working for me, then I have to resort to trying online dating. Cue vicious cycle.
And I know I'm not alone on this one...
I'm curious to see what your profiles look like. Having also spent many years on apps/sites (with some success but also many wasted hours), I've seen every type of profile made by men. I'm blown away by the sheer amount of profiles which contain glaring red flags/faux-pas and always ask myself 'how can this guy think he's marketing himself well through this??' I've almost considered going into a consulting business to help men make better profiles, not just as a service to them, but to the poor women who have to sift endlessly through them.. (not really, but hey it's a good idea)
The fact of the matter is, online dating sites give women the attention they crave. That's all it has ever been about.
Sure people get lucky and make a connection, but online dating gives woman option overload. They get to feel their hypergamous oats to the max.
I can tell you why men go for younger women. It's very simple actually.
It's because when men are say, 21, a 19 year old woman looks hot, and 40 year old women (older women) look like they're 80 to a 21 year old male.
But, when that 21 year old man hits 60, that "older woman" is now actually 80. And the 19 year old chick still looks hot.
The Dawoon's bod is smokin'!
Out of all the apps and sites I have used CMB has been the best one.
you should a thoughtfully written out profile and the more pictures the better. Don't make me guess which person the profile belongs to. Also Have at least one full body picture, attraction is important
The main problem is that people become too picky too choosy and end up with no one. Research suggests throwing out the list of what you want and instead choosing what you need.
Meeting people offline is good because you can communicate better and easier and establish trust faster. The difficulty is actually meeting new people who happen to be single
A lot of nut cases out there. Why would one "open" itself to random chaotic universe. The problems is western civilization left behind family, tradition and communities witch left them with kids without a strong stable foundation. Online dating is for confused lab rats.
As someone who spent time on all major sites let me say BS. I wrote and re wrote my profile, and hardly even got responses. The few you do get you feel terrible bc you aren't into them but then go into a mental rant about how can you complain when you finally get one response, but why should you settle and realize that there probably isn't hope for you at all. With a response rate of maybe 2% MAYBE, I'd say unless you are Ryan Gossling or Scarlett Johanson like she says in the video, I'd stay far away from this stuff. It's nothing but a depressant
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