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How to STOP putting women on pedestals! (It's affecting your game)

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You have to STOP Obsessing over HOT WOMEN! Click here to claim your free Conversation Cheat Sheet: ►►► http://www.theattractiveman.com/conversation-cheat-sheet-dd/ Ever gone crazy over a hot girl? International Dating Coach, Duke Delaet, shows us HOW to stop obsessing over hot girls and WHY you should do it! Men obsessing over hot women can be devastating. It can ruin the interaction and scare women away. It damages your perception of expectation versus reality. It can even stop you from being productive the rest of your life... Basically, it can RUIN your LIFE if you're not careful! As with all obsessions, it's UNHEALTHY. So before you dive into a life full disappointment, change that mentality and become a man who can approach HOT women WITHOUT going bat-sh*t crazy! Duke explains that "putting women on a pedestal" and seeing the best of her isn't necessarily bad. However, once you IGNORE all the NEGATIVE things she has, and project IMPRACTICAL FANTASIES, then we have a problem there. Some men even go ahead and make a fool of themselves. So let's not let it go there. He'll demonstrate how to stop obsessing over hot girls by flipping the script and focusing on yourself. That way, the quality of your relationships and even life, in general, will drastically improve for the better. Not just for the present but for your future as well. You have to understand its not supposed to be a one-sided thing. It's about making BOTH of your lives better! Duke shows: ►The top reasons why you should STOP going all crazy for HOT chicks. ►How to focus on yourself and take CONTROL of your EMOTIONS. She's NOT the prize, man. YOU ARE! ►How to know if she's the BEST fit for your life through QUALIFICATION. ►The fastest way to TAKE ACTION and free yourself from a life of disappointment by finding the RIGHT WOMAN for you! Want to learn how to talk to women the right way? Click here to claim your free Conversation Cheat Sheet: ►►► http://www.theattractiveman.com/conversation-cheat-sheet-dd/ The Attractive Man is an international dating company famous for teaching “Deep Authentic Attraction.” Duke Delaet is one of the head instructors and has since has trained men all over the world. Click here to claim your free Seduction Training: http://www.theattractiveman.com/seduction-training-dd/ ################################################################################################### MORE FROM THE ATTRACTIVE MAN Subscribe to The Attractive Man YouTube channel here: ► https://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=theattractiveman1 PLAYLISTS TO HELP IMPROVE YOUR DATING LIFE: How To Talk To Girls ► https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL81KCO2IOpwxWdbKfbjojUujXJBEe5ghH Mindset and Inner Game ► https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL81KCO2IOpwwJPmg5yUKmAf7-hlklj9IH Infield Approaches ► https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL81KCO2IOpwxy9S_wdH6lkKG4JdtnrlwK How To Be Charismatic ► https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL81KCO2IOpwyqQsjWYl6Lq1CvAmjoXHOL Advanced Dating Tips ► https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL81KCO2IOpwyu9AuzX1fGZRjFppTCqC43 Advanced Demonstrations ► https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL81KCO2IOpwyrwmn5UsZSYehnMHHP_Nmo Texting & Phone Tips ► https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL81KCO2IOpwyVK7GFWXJvtSKOnBYXSFgl ################################################################################################### We have a blog! Visit our website at http://theattractiveman.com/ Want more dates? Check out the bootcamp schedule here: ► http://www.theattractiveman.com/live-training-dd/ Want 1-on-1 private coaching? Then click here: ► http://1on1datingcoach.com Click here to claim your free Conversation Cheat Sheet: ►►► http://www.theattractiveman.com/conversation-cheat-sheet-dd/
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The Attractive Man (10 months ago)
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Underground Wes (5 months ago)
Do not validate women. Alpha males know this. Focus on your purpose in life. Better yourself and women will come to you. But the more you validate her the more she will probably end up in a alpha males bed because you are making her the prize when it should be you.
Kevin S (7 months ago)
The Attractive Man thank u for these videos! Im showing these to my son. Keep up the great work
Mgtow (19 hours ago)
The less you care what women think the more she will want you. Ignore them & go Mgtow. #Mgtow
HiTechKing (3 days ago)
Is that a teeth on your tongue?
doobiewah357 (13 days ago)
Write this down: If you treat her like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan.
jack adams (17 days ago)
I bet this guy gets laid a lot
This was a great video for me to see bc I have been guilty of this almost all the damn time. This advice will help for sure
Charles Victoria (1 month ago)
I believe every guy should see this video at least once. Remember..pretty hot girls fart and take shits, too.
Crysti Cobarrubias (1 month ago)
Wut is on yore tung
Harris Jensen (1 month ago)
One of the best videos on men being men I’ve seen in two years. Matt is number one but you are number two in the world, in my opinion. My professional opinion. 20 years as a psychiatrist.
Vince Brown (1 month ago)
The narcissistic mirror men hold up for women is why women like to act like the world revolves around them. These entitled women that think special treatment is a given are all around the west because men enabled it. Why would men do this behavior ? To feel manly and superior. Look at all the rap videos and Chevy truck commercials and Hollywood movies. They all show men spending money on women and giving them admiration for no good reason. Once men start facing women and stop deferring to them, then those entitled women will only look at themselves in the mirror and will have no one to hold it up for them.
Kate Harrison (2 months ago)
If you put me on a pedestal, I’ll treat you like a king. This advice is good so you don’t have unrealistic expectations, perfection doesn’t exist. But don’t let that stop you from putting a woman on a pedestal. She’ll put you on one too.
Vince Brown (1 month ago)
If you like being treated like a second class citizen then encourage your paramour to put you on one. This video is very misinformed about what being put on a pedestal means. If you treat a man like a king because he puts you on a pedestal, your basically elevating him to a potentate position and your reducing yourself to a second class citizen.The definition of putting someone on a pedestal is giving someone "undeserved respect and admiration". In other words, basically it means to give admiration to someone easily or uncritically. When someone puts you on a pedestal, they're condescending to you because they're treating you like a child. A child receives admiration and respect easily and uncritically, usually to boost the kids self esteem because it has nearly no self awareness at that age. People act easily impressed by whatever a child does or says because they're held to a lower standard. Your basically being insulted when you're put on a pedestal. This behavior has almost nothing to do with looks. Im sorry to educate you but I just had to say something. P.S. When you get respect when its deserved, then thats when people look at you as peers or equals.
Very good guy.
dimmu dimmu (2 months ago)
When a dating girlasks you what do you want in a woman. 1- sex 2-cook 3-be quiet
cetar bahana (2 months ago)
Stop on pedestal for women . 1. Be assertive. Don't ask women permission. Don't say sorry. You are equal with her. 2. Confident. Don't show your inferiority. 3. Manage your emotions when interact with women.
Vince Brown (1 month ago)
I respect your advice but its kinda vague, Not like you should care but what I learned from Marc Rudov (a relationship coach) is that putting women on pedestals actually means you view her as the inferior one and you as the superior one. Think about it, if you give women admiration and respect too easily or uncritically, then you're showing that you have lower standards for women. Would you give any of your guy friends admiration and respect for no good reason? No. Thats why you should treat women like everyone else. Marc advises men to think of and treat women as peers and that means you should not act easily impressed by them or kiss their ass for act too macho and cool to impress them or woo them. When men do this, this removes the narcissistic mirror men hold up for entitled princesses. Look at the rappers in music videos and look at the Hollywood movies. Men give admiration and respect to women easily because it makes them/men feel superior not inferior. People who are on their pedestals are not held accountable and responsible for anything. People who are not held accountable feel inferior not superior. So my guide would be 1. Do not be uncritically and easily impressed by women 2. Do not kiss their ass and act sycophantically (this behavior derives from chivalry out of false nobility) 3. Dont try so hard to woo them, by acting macho or any other way. P.s. managing your emotions is a good tip. It makes sense because if you don't give people so much importance then they can't really effect you in anyway and it shows that you do not put them on a pedestal.
Tudorel Virgil (2 months ago)
Scott Palmer (2 months ago)
Adventure I did it one time and end up screwing me over took all my money took everything I own had me arrested and everything and let the United States and got married to a woman in a foreign country I totally agree with this dude
Rickey Bennem (2 months ago)
Love it. Thank you!
The Attractive Man (2 months ago)
Thanks as well, Rickey!
adrian persaud (3 months ago)
Classic video!
Dark Brilliance (3 months ago)
Number one rule.....Devalue the vagina!!
Jeremiah Johnson (3 months ago)
What’s in your mouth dude 😂
Gabriel Rodriguez (3 months ago)
hmmmmm yeah um lose the ring it doesn't look cool on you also women are also turned off when I show them the "flip the script" They told me that i'm not good enough for you or oh i feel so small they usually end up with sore losers.
gabriel gervais (3 months ago)
Most men are like a bunch of desperate vagina worshippers who indeed put females on a pedestal.
Timothy Burchett (3 months ago)
You really need women that badly to think this bullshit through this far.... wow one phrase for you .... MGTOW
Azer Efendizade (3 months ago)
I cringe when guys think about a really hot girl as "out of their league". This basically means they are better than you and you are a completely worthless piece of shit. This guy is right, you need to flip the script. Guys need to give themselves value, because it is not true at all that they are worthless. They are worth however they value themselves. If they think of themselves as ugly, they could be. If they think of themselves as perfect, they are. Especially when afraid of getting rejected, have the mentality that she is not better than you, and who the fuck is she to embarrass you? That is what guys need to do.
New Thought (3 months ago)
Walk away from any self-entitled, vein, narcissistic woman, looks are purely superficial and wear off quickly. There are too many of these parasites who are ONLY interested in you fulfilling THEIR lives.
New Thought (3 months ago)
Of course treat her well and be kind, BUT, do not praise her as this makes her feel awks AND undermines YOU.
Buk David (3 months ago)
Not taking advice from a guy with a tongue piercing. Lol....
Rajpreet Dhillon (3 months ago)
Someone needa put you on a diet plan.Jokes 😂😂nice video
Mr Crow (3 months ago)
Hi... im a greece! a warrior! we say... If you are not as good as achiles... or as simple as achiles... you should not put energy to get a girl only becouse of her look! If you have a tusand ships with 50 000 men, ready for die for you.. then go ahead, that time is nothing to wasting! But only that!
Clarence M (3 months ago)
Three words: Be a man. That's the foundation.
The Attractive Man (3 months ago)
Thanks for the comment!
Chazz Ram (3 months ago)
The worst and foremost thing a man can do is put a woman on a pedestal, if you do that your done, ok women are she/devils and they always want to live dangerously, no matter who she is and then they all have the princess syndrome, if you put them on a pedestal your confirming to her that she's more important than you are and your done, she'll walk all over you like a cheap Chinese carpet. she already has more rights than you do so don't ever do that or your game is done...she won't hesitate a second to let you know that she does, so don't ever over look her fucked up qualities cause the minute she confirms that, they'll come right out then you'll see the she/devil..always treat her like a lady if she doesn't like it you have confirmed your suspicions and it's time to run cause she'll be nothing but problems...
Maria Holt (3 months ago)
To all the guys in the comment section, I'd like to apologise on behalf on these females out here that like to use you for your money or who like to mess with your emotions ... From a young age we have been told to let the man pay or he will try to take advantage of you, but this goes both ways! I'm currently trying to get a certain guy off of a pedestal as well, so I will try to apply the video to myself too.
Mark Mullins (4 months ago)
I can't do these things because i have Aspergers
Simon Shura (4 months ago)
Just move to asia guys, your welcome.
France Jones-Smith (4 months ago)
i came for the titties and get a nigga who looks like he has gangrene on his face
France Jones-Smith (4 months ago)
but for real this guy knows what he is talking about
Tom Hans (4 months ago)
Has this guy got a loose tooth in his mouth?
{{{they}}} live (4 months ago)
Tongue studs on dudes are so gay.....other than that he is spot on.
Laurynas Nesakysiu (4 months ago)
7:45 #4 is petty bad. It's like playing with open cards when you just spew out qualities you're looking for. She can do what she wants with that information. Ofcourse she can say "that's not me" OR she can fake those qualities.
Noteyouraverage (4 months ago)
This is all lovely dandy and all but what if I'm not sure about what I want her qualities to be ? How can I hold women up to standards that don't even exist?
Greg Chase (4 months ago)
**LESSON FROM HISTORY** Being humble (believe it or not that was 100% acceptable in the past) used to be a "social norm", a behavior that everyone accepted, except biker girls, whores, barflies, etc. Now the 'feminine' girls who sleep around (have high body count) really need something remarkable because they've seen it all. This describes most girls in our time over the age of 21 or 22. Hookup culture, dating apps, etc. **HERE'S AN ANALOGY** Ever try to get into a good college? If you're smart you read up on how to pass any entrance essays etc. and they always say "sound different because the readers read a lot of essays, so you have to BE REMARKABLE they don't want to hear "my Dad is my hero" stuff, everyone says that in their entrance essay" We all have a lot more opportunities these days and you really have to be remarkable. We all have high body counts. So if you're not willing to be REMARKABLE it will be hard to distinguish yourself from all the other bodies out there. . . .
CornTreason Plebs (4 months ago)
quiet you have 2 inch chode
Jeron Bradford (4 months ago)
Damn!! This advice is massively good!! I promise you, this advice is what I learned the HARD WAY!!! THIS ADVICE IS GOLDEN!!! Guys (and even ladies) should take some serious note!! Even more so, you will understand and treasure being single too!! This guy's advice will save a lot of time trying to figure out crucial stuff!! (By the way, this video has nothing to do with putting a lady on a pedestal and all to do with understanding how be a boss and own your social and mental interactions with people!!
stutzceo (4 months ago)
Women who I have told what I was looking for have ALWAYS lied and said...yep, that’s me. So it’s better to test and see in my opinion.
Cobra King (4 months ago)
Please take that shit out of your mouth when you talk to us. Other than that, content is on point.
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
Thanks for the comment, man!
Kamaro3XVII (4 months ago)
I agree with you but too many thirsty dudes. The power of the pussy is too strong. Men cannot resist.
John Butner (4 months ago)
Truer words were never spoken but the target audience must be low-esteem teenage mamasboy nerds with frail bodies and pimples. 😁
John Butner (4 months ago)
Look how stupid fake girls look these days and their personality is rubbish. People who still put women on pedastals are irrational.
FLORIN PIELEANU (4 months ago)
I like your educated speech, dude. Nice job ;)
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
Thanks man!
antihackergrl 31now32 (4 months ago)
I agree actually, and i'm a woman, it becomes creepy if a guy waits around for a woman to show up, I think the aggravation I have with guys like this, is that it's weird, it's a turn off to me I can't help it because usually guys flip flop between being naughty and nice they don't suddenly become 100% nice, or 100% hateful of women and if they do it means he probably needs some therapy.
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
It's great to hear an insight from a woman, thanks for sharing!
Jorge Gonzalez (4 months ago)
They want to be the center of people attention,well ignore them,body language speak louder
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
Thanks for the comment!
jjd jj (4 months ago)
You sound like a woman hater...remember women are the weaker species..so HELP her. Also men are usually the bread winners...women want tp be provided for...if you are not a good provider then keep going buddy...its a fact that men get paid much more than women. Women dont want to suffer and struggle all of their lives. Nowadays men just dump their women and children getting away without paying child support. That puts the women and children into poverty. So..... its good to be a good provider and to take care and love her. And be yourself. Same for the woman, she should be herself as well. Thats my advice. Remember when you go after a super attractive woman an you want her, everyone else does too. Choose more down to earth ladies....you wont be hurt like those heartbreakers...same for the women...the super attractive guys will more than likely be cheaters. All the women will chase him.
Marcus Melton (4 months ago)
He doesn't sound like a woman hater. He's just saying to stop putting females on a pedestal like there some trophy or more special than you are and that they're just as human as us.
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
Good point, thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Isac Ibarra (4 months ago)
2:10 LOL I have both things.
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
Do you want to talk about it on the next Academy coaching call?
Isac Ibarra (4 months ago)
+The Attractive Man actually a bit sad...
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
That's cool, Isac
Jeffrey Bone (4 months ago)
I cant do all that and i cant pretend the girls are not on that pedestal, because iam desperate and weak. So iam going to pull out my shotgun and blow them off of that pedestal!!! Those filthy fucking bitches!!
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
That sounds scary but thanks for watching the video, Jeff
Ramiro Díaz García (4 months ago)
great video with fast non repetitive valuable content!
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
We totally appreciate that! Thanks for the comment, man!
Ramiro Díaz García (4 months ago)
girls are so stupid for friend zoning an apparently weak guy XD they will say how was I supposed to know the difference, well thats why when you’re shown a rolex you check if its real lol
The Attractive Man (4 months ago)
Thanks for sharing your insights, Ramiro
Randolph Jude (4 months ago)
If I met the girl you have pictured on your video selection, I’d need to watch this video at least 25 times. I’d be in some serious trouble
Suhas Prasad (5 months ago)
This guy is awesome!
The Attractive Man (5 months ago)
Thanks for the comment!
Michael Statia (5 months ago)
So where did u get the thumbnail? Cousin needs it for a research paper
Rich Alvarez (5 months ago)
Is that acid flicking around your tongue in the video?
Japalloo (5 months ago)
Thanks for the tips, but this guy is awesome😂
The Attractive Man (5 months ago)
Thanks for the support, man! 👊
SpartanG (5 months ago)
Why this dude got a tongue ring though....?
Wow. This was one of THE best and most immediately practical videos out there on the subject of empowering men for dating!
The Attractive Man (5 months ago)
Thanks man! Thanks for watching!
ChrisJ Fox (5 months ago)
Bottom line, even if she's literally the most gorgeous girl you've ever met time a million, you simply do not know her yet. A connection needs to be genuinely built (even if it's just for a one-night stand), otherwise you're trying to force something just because she's hot/beautiful and aren't truely paying attention to the ever-changing state of the interaction.
Gabriel Rodriguez (3 months ago)
+ChrisJ Fox Yep, my first response to you pretty much sums the caring part, am I right?
ChrisJ Fox (3 months ago)
+Gabriel Rodriguez there's this thing called caring about more than just a girl's looks
Gabriel Rodriguez (3 months ago)
True, plus beauty fades when "The most gorgeous girl" gets old.
Royal Ace (5 months ago)
Every time I meet an incredibly hot woman and couldn't help but put her on a pedestal, I would just imagine her having massive diarrhea and she's off the pedestal.
Jackson Young (5 months ago)
MitchCyanFilms (5 months ago)
So basically, push her in the mud.
MitchCyanFilms (5 months ago)
So basically, push her in the mud.
Hugh Mungus (5 months ago)
Exactly what I needed, thank you bro✊
Sloe Bone (5 months ago)
I’m not taking advice from a dude with a pierced tongue.
The Dill Dozer (5 months ago)
K bro good advice, but the tongue ring looks pretty fucking gay.
Adam Feliciano (5 months ago)
I'm putting her on a Pedestal because she is a GODDESS <3<3<3<3 You are just jealous.
toneman335 (5 months ago)
Great insightful video....well done!
Verto’s Cloud (5 months ago)
Swallow your tic tac 😂😂
Mrhopper163 (1 month ago)
•Atli• I peeped that shit too
str8 '88 (6 months ago)
Ronnie from Jersey Shore in this bitch ok then lol
CuriousCat (6 months ago)
Yea...this is what happened to me. I did think she was the one because we had a lot of chemistry. I could basically talk to her about anything and the conversation wouldn't ever end. I put her on a pedestal and that was a mistake. I got too desperate.
J Music 30 (6 months ago)
"DATE ME, HO!" Does this one work for a starter?
I Ravageshot I (6 months ago)
great video Duke. I agree with all your tips apart from the fact of not being emotional. In my opinion I think you should be in control of your actions no matter how you feel. This goes with men too. If they cant sway you then they wont test you or try to upset you
SamjrMusic (6 months ago)
This guy just kept rambling too much instead of making his points
CrimsonSlayer7 (6 months ago)
Duke Daleat needs to do more videos. Great energy and I feel hes more down to earth
Vervito united (6 months ago)
Jeremiah Johnson (6 months ago)
I forgot the cartoon this guy looks like 😂😭
Dr. Gregory [H]OUSE (6 months ago)
*The only time you should put a woman on a pedestal, is when you want to look under her skirt*
Papa Fritas (6 months ago)
Whatever’s on his tongue is very distracting lol
paul giblett (6 months ago)
Always put women on pedestals and women should have power. She's in charge
Mrhopper163 (1 month ago)
paul giblett fucking simp
Isac Ibarra (4 months ago)
Peter Chou (6 months ago)
Dude, you described my behavior. Holy shit!
TJ tech (6 months ago)
Where is Matt these day
creeper58272 (6 months ago)
Great video
LLOASAAT (6 months ago)
Because your tongue piercing is white it looks like you've constantly got a breath mint half way through it's life in your mouth
Splif Beatz (6 months ago)
start thinking about how her shit stinks as well :D
Zack Benson (6 months ago)
73 Disliked surely ! Nice guys 😂
Roger Rampen (7 months ago)
All these bitches had took over. Including my mom. Jajanaja
Roger Rampen (7 months ago)
For some reason I don't get aroused that well if it isn't toxic. And I know it's a fairytale to find the one but it looses stiffness I think because it didn' feel Cock enough to have her just for me. Lol
Tirah5 (7 months ago)
@2:25 ...i went to the night club... (expecting a fat dude and shows up Ashton Kutcher instead)
Dave Thomson (7 months ago)
This is great and really nice to hear. Thank you fior this!
The Attractive Man (7 months ago)
You're welcome man!
John Pierce (7 months ago)
Never put bitches first ever.... acquire aesthetics and currency
Messenger MCExtra1 (7 months ago)
Real Talk! Real True!
The Attractive Man (7 months ago)
Thanks for the comment man!
David H. (7 months ago)
Does this guy really have the kind of tounge piercing associated withg oral sex for....
Lieta Taysom (7 months ago)
Thank you for this. As women I have found nothing ends a potential relationship faster then when a man starts thinking I'm perfect. They just ignore things like..."I want to have several kids." Or I don't think this will work because your career is very time demanding and. I would rather be with a man with a lower income but lots of time . Like a teacher instead of a lawyer. And then they don't let it go when I break it off Sometimes for years! They are convinced they love me even though it's really obvious we would never work out and it just makes us both miserable. Is thank you. Men don't try to "win" us try to find a women who is good to And for you and you will find someone who you are also good to and for
Alen Abayti (5 months ago)
Don Ragnar (7 months ago)
Get to the fucking point
huggable cactus (7 months ago)
Dude looks like a baked potato but speaks the truth
Mrhopper163 (1 month ago)
huggable cactus 😂

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