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Ever gone crazy over a hot girl? International Dating Coach, Duke Delaet, shows us HOW to stop obsessing over hot girls and WHY you should do it!
Men obsessing over hot women can be devastating. It can ruin the interaction and scare women away. It damages your perception of expectation versus reality. It can even stop you from being productive the rest of your life... Basically, it can RUIN your LIFE if you're not careful!
As with all obsessions, it's UNHEALTHY. So before you dive into a life full disappointment, change that mentality and become a man who can approach HOT women WITHOUT going bat-sh*t crazy!
Duke explains that "putting women on a pedestal" and seeing the best of her isn't necessarily bad. However, once you IGNORE all the NEGATIVE things she has, and project IMPRACTICAL FANTASIES, then we have a problem there. Some men even go ahead and make a fool of themselves. So let's not let it go there.
He'll demonstrate how to stop obsessing over hot girls by flipping the script and focusing on yourself. That way, the quality of your relationships and even life, in general, will drastically improve for the better. Not just for the present but for your future as well. You have to understand its not supposed to be a one-sided thing. It's about making BOTH of your lives better!
►The top reasons why you should STOP going all crazy for HOT chicks.
►How to focus on yourself and take CONTROL of your EMOTIONS. She's NOT the prize, man. YOU ARE!
►How to know if she's the BEST fit for your life through QUALIFICATION.
►The fastest way to TAKE ACTION and free yourself from a life of disappointment by finding the RIGHT WOMAN for you!
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Do not validate women. Alpha males know this. Focus on your purpose in life. Better yourself and women will come to you. But the more you validate her the more she will probably end up in a alpha males bed because you are making her the prize when it should be you.
The narcissistic mirror men hold up for women is why women like to act like the world revolves around them. These entitled women that think special treatment is a given are all around the west because men enabled it. Why would men do this behavior ? To feel manly and superior. Look at all the rap videos and Chevy truck commercials and Hollywood movies. They all show men spending money on women and giving them admiration for no good reason. Once men start facing women and stop deferring to them, then those entitled women will only look at themselves in the mirror and will have no one to hold it up for them.
If you put me on a pedestal, I’ll treat you like a king.
This advice is good so you don’t have unrealistic expectations, perfection doesn’t exist. But don’t let that stop you from putting a woman on a pedestal. She’ll put you on one too.
If you like being treated like a second class citizen then encourage your paramour to put you on one. This video is very misinformed about what being put on a pedestal means. If you treat a man like a king because he puts you on a pedestal, your basically elevating him to a potentate position and your reducing yourself to a second class citizen.The definition of putting someone on a pedestal is giving someone "undeserved respect and admiration". In other words, basically it means to give admiration to someone easily or uncritically. When someone puts you on a pedestal, they're condescending to you because they're treating you like a child. A child receives admiration and respect easily and uncritically, usually to boost the kids self esteem because it has nearly no self awareness at that age. People act easily impressed by whatever a child does or says because they're held to a lower standard. Your basically being insulted when you're put on a pedestal. This behavior has almost nothing to do with looks. Im sorry to educate you but I just had to say something. P.S. When you get respect when its deserved, then thats when people look at you as peers or equals.
Stop on pedestal for women .
1. Be assertive. Don't ask women permission. Don't say sorry. You are equal with her.
2. Confident. Don't show your inferiority.
3. Manage your emotions when interact with women.
I respect your advice but its kinda vague, Not like you should care but what I learned from Marc Rudov (a relationship coach) is that putting women on pedestals actually means you view her as the inferior one and you as the superior one. Think about it, if you give women admiration and respect too easily or uncritically, then you're showing that you have lower standards for women. Would you give any of your guy friends admiration and respect for no good reason? No. Thats why you should treat women like everyone else. Marc advises men to think of and treat women as peers and that means you should not act easily impressed by them or kiss their ass for act too macho and cool to impress them or woo them. When men do this, this removes the narcissistic mirror men hold up for entitled princesses. Look at the rappers in music videos and look at the Hollywood movies. Men give admiration and respect to women easily because it makes them/men feel superior not inferior. People who are on their pedestals are not held accountable and responsible for anything. People who are not held accountable feel inferior not superior.
So my guide would be
1. Do not be uncritically and easily impressed by women
2. Do not kiss their ass and act sycophantically (this behavior derives from chivalry out of false nobility)
3. Dont try so hard to woo them, by acting macho or any other way.
P.s. managing your emotions is a good tip. It makes sense because if you don't give people so much importance then they can't really effect you in anyway and it shows that you do not put them on a pedestal.
Adventure I did it one time and end up screwing me over took all my money took everything I own had me arrested and everything and let the United States and got married to a woman in a foreign country I totally agree with this dude
hmmmmm yeah um lose the ring it doesn't look cool on you also women are also turned off when I show them the "flip the script" They told me that i'm not good enough for you or oh i feel so small they usually end up with sore losers.
I cringe when guys think about a really hot girl as "out of their league". This basically means they are better than you and you are a completely worthless piece of shit. This guy is right, you need to flip the script. Guys need to give themselves value, because it is not true at all that they are worthless. They are worth however they value themselves. If they think of themselves as ugly, they could be. If they think of themselves as perfect, they are. Especially when afraid of getting rejected, have the mentality that she is not better than you, and who the fuck is she to embarrass you? That is what guys need to do.
Walk away from any self-entitled, vein, narcissistic woman, looks are purely superficial and wear off quickly. There are too many of these parasites who are ONLY interested in you fulfilling THEIR lives.
im a greece!
If you are not as good as achiles...
or as simple as achiles...
you should not put energy to get a girl only becouse of her look!
If you have a tusand ships with 50 000 men, ready for die for you..
then go ahead, that time is nothing to wasting!
But only that!
The worst and foremost thing a man can do is put a woman on a pedestal, if you do that your done, ok women are she/devils and they always want to live dangerously, no matter who she is and then they all have the princess syndrome, if you put them on a pedestal your confirming to her that she's more important than you are and your done, she'll walk all over you like a cheap Chinese carpet. she already has more rights than you do so don't ever do that or your game is done...she won't hesitate a second to let you know that she does, so don't ever over look her fucked up qualities cause the minute she confirms that, they'll come right out then you'll see the she/devil..always treat her like a lady if she doesn't like it you have confirmed your suspicions and it's time to run cause she'll be nothing but problems...
To all the guys in the comment section, I'd like to apologise on behalf on these females out here that like to use you for your money or who like to mess with your emotions ... From a young age we have been told to let the man pay or he will try to take advantage of you, but this goes both ways! I'm currently trying to get a certain guy off of a pedestal as well, so I will try to apply the video to myself too.
7:45 #4 is petty bad. It's like playing with open cards when you just spew out qualities you're looking for. She can do what she wants with that information. Ofcourse she can say "that's not me" OR she can fake those qualities.
**LESSON FROM HISTORY**
Being humble (believe it or not that was 100% acceptable in the past) used to be a "social norm", a behavior that everyone accepted, except biker girls, whores, barflies, etc.
Now the 'feminine' girls who sleep around (have high body count) really need something remarkable because they've seen it all. This describes most girls in our time over the age of 21 or 22. Hookup culture, dating apps, etc.
**HERE'S AN ANALOGY**
Ever try to get into a good college? If you're smart you read up on how to pass any entrance essays etc. and they always say "sound different because the readers read a lot of essays, so you have to BE REMARKABLE they don't want to hear "my Dad is my hero" stuff, everyone says that in their entrance essay"
We all have a lot more opportunities these days and you really have to be remarkable. We all have high body counts. So if you're not willing to be REMARKABLE it will be hard to distinguish yourself from all the other bodies out there.
Damn!! This advice is massively good!! I promise you, this advice is what I learned the HARD WAY!!! THIS ADVICE IS GOLDEN!!! Guys (and even ladies) should take some serious note!! Even more so, you will understand and treasure being single too!! This guy's advice will save a lot of time trying to figure out crucial stuff!! (By the way, this video has nothing to do with putting a lady on a pedestal and all to do with understanding how be a boss and own your social and mental interactions with people!!
I agree actually, and i'm a woman, it becomes creepy if a guy waits around for a woman to show up, I think the aggravation I have
with guys like this, is that it's weird, it's a turn off to me I can't help it because usually guys flip flop between being naughty and nice
they don't suddenly become 100% nice, or 100% hateful of women and if they do it means he probably needs some therapy.
You sound like a woman hater...remember women are the weaker species..so HELP her. Also men are usually the bread winners...women want tp be provided for...if you are not a good provider then keep going buddy...its a fact that men get paid much more than women. Women dont want to suffer and struggle all of their lives. Nowadays men just dump their women and children getting away without paying child support. That puts the women and children into poverty. So..... its good to be a good provider and to take care and love her. And be yourself. Same for the woman, she should be herself as well. Thats my advice. Remember when you go after a super attractive woman an you want her, everyone else does too. Choose more down to earth ladies....you wont be hurt like those heartbreakers...same for the women...the super attractive guys will more than likely be cheaters. All the women will chase him.
I cant do all that and i cant pretend the girls are not on that pedestal, because iam desperate and weak. So iam going to pull out my shotgun and blow them off of that pedestal!!! Those filthy fucking bitches!!
Bottom line, even if she's literally the most gorgeous girl you've ever met time a million, you simply do not know her yet. A connection needs to be genuinely built (even if it's just for a one-night stand), otherwise you're trying to force something just because she's hot/beautiful and aren't truely paying attention to the ever-changing state of the interaction.
Yea...this is what happened to me. I did think she was the one because we had a lot of chemistry. I could basically talk to her about anything and the conversation wouldn't ever end. I put her on a pedestal and that was a mistake. I got too desperate.
great video Duke. I agree with all your tips apart from the fact of not being emotional. In my opinion I think you should be in control of your actions no matter how you feel. This goes with men too. If they cant sway you then they wont test you or try to upset you
For some reason I don't get aroused that well if it isn't toxic. And I know it's a fairytale to find the one but it looses stiffness I think because it didn' feel Cock enough to have her just for me. Lol
Thank you for this. As women I have found nothing ends a potential relationship faster then when a man starts thinking I'm perfect. They just ignore things like..."I want to have several kids." Or I don't think this will work because your career is very time demanding and. I would rather be with a man with a lower income but lots of time . Like a teacher instead of a lawyer.
And then they don't let it go when I break it off Sometimes for years! They are convinced they love me even though it's really obvious we would never work out and it just makes us both miserable. Is thank you. Men don't try to "win" us try to find a women who is good to And for you and you will find someone who you are also good to and for
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