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10 Things You Should Never Say to Teens

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Being a parent and bringing up kids the right way, giving them the best you can, being strict just enough and yet winning their love is not an easy task. We all know that words can hurt deeper than a knife, which is why knowing how to communicate with your kids and what not to do is key. Pay attention to these phrases you should never say to your kids or teens to help them and protect them. If your teen is upset about something, whether it’s a crush that won’t notice them or a fight with their best friend, you shouldn’t just tell them that they’re okay. This type of response from you will only make things worse. A study conducted by the University of Notre Dame found that when parents criticize themselves out loud with their children nearby, it can actually have a detrimental effect on their kids’ self-esteem. If you want your child to grow up to be self-sufficient, don’t be too hands-on. You can, however, guide them through a problem and help them find the right solution themselves. This way, your child will grow up knowing that everything is in their own hands, instead of naïvely waiting for somebody else to come and make all their problems disappear. Music: Audionautix - Straighty Baby https://www.youtube.com/audiolibrary/music TIMESTAMPS #10. “You're okay.” 0:50 #9. “I'm so fat!” 1:50 #8. “Hurry up!” 2:47 #7. “Don't be sad.” 3:50 #6. “Let me do it.” 4:50 #5. “You're so incredible!” 5:52 #4. “Good job!” 7:10 #3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04 #2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02 #1. “I'm so proud of you!” 9:55 SUMMARY -Instead of telling your kids it’s okay, be their shoulder to cry on, listen to them, and acknowledge their feelings. This way, they won’t be afraid to come to you if something bad happens. -Our parents are our role models as we’re growing up, and their behavior sets an example for us. So, for example, when a mother calls herself fat all the time, her daughter subconsciously learns to view her body and appearance the same way. -Rushing just puts unnecessary pressure on your kid. Whatever you do, just try to keep a positive and playful vibe in the morning, your kid will surely appreciate it. -If your teen is sad or crying, sit them down and try to help them work through their feelings, that is, if they’re comfortable opening up. -If you tend to jump in too soon, you may undermine your child's independence. They’ll develop a habit of always looking to others for answers, and nobody wants that for their kids. -Inflated praise somehow puts even more pressure on children with low self-esteem as opposed to encouraging them. They start to worry about meeting the high standards you set again, so they're afraid to take on a challenge. -Asking questions about the details and the work it took to get the result keeps the focus on your kid and makes them explain their choices, both of which help their self-confidence a lot. -It's better to use phrases, like “Your brother/sister looks up to you!” or “You're such a role model for your little brother/sister!” -Children should never be forced to do anything that makes them uncomfortable, especially when it comes to physical contact. -Children may start to feel responsible for expressed parental pride, like they need to keep it up because that’s the only way that Mom or Dad will feel good or love them. Subscribe to Bright Side : https://goo.gl/rQTJZz ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Our Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brightside/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brightgram/ 5-Minute Crafts Youtube: https://www.goo.gl/8JVmuC ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For more videos and articles visit: http://www.brightside.me/
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BRIGHT SIDE (9 months ago)
TIMESTAMPS #10. “You're okay.” 0:50 #9. “I'm so fat!” 1:50 #8. “Hurry up!” 2:47 #7. “Don't be sad.” 3:50 #6. “Let me do it.” 4:50 #5. “You're so incredible!” 5:52 #4. “Good job!” 7:10 #3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04 #2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02 #1. “I'm so proud of you!” 9:55
tin nguyen (4 days ago)
BRIGHT SIDE ? How do you know everything?
Sinned Animations (12 days ago)
Shiloh Nebres (12 days ago)
Sinned Animations (22 days ago)
We can't say facts? I am negative
Terry Bardy (23 days ago)
"Why can't you be like your brother or sister?" Or, "I wish you were never born!" Here's a good one, "Stay out of my life!"
aishar namatovu (18 hours ago)
I hate this "you have to set a good example for your siblings" and am blamed with every mistake they make they say that they learnt from me so stressedi
AshtonGaming Mobile (20 hours ago)
Courtney Johns (4 days ago)
Ok this video was obviously made by kids but 99.9% of kids are watching this and 1% of adults 🤨🙄 ugh 😑 are watching this More adults please!!!!!
KAIJU Heart Plays. (5 days ago)
The MOST inportant thing to NEVER say to your pree teen is - CLEAN YOUR ROOM - XD jk jk i have no idea honestly XD good video :3
Royal Secret (7 days ago)
Uhhh hhuh parents remains parents busy in their own worlds I think teenage is very hard to survive and life sucks
I hate when my mom always wants me to do somthing while im doing homewoek or watch youtube !
BlessedOne0721 (8 days ago)
"It's not that bad," or "It couldn't have been that bad." "You're too sensitive," "Don't be so sensitive," or "Why do you have to be so sensitive?" are also in there.
AAA AA (9 days ago)
mom: good job BS: ur a bad parent now
powetcrusher (9 days ago)
This video could not be more Wrong it is all complete garbage !!
Sonya Baker (10 days ago)
Hay did you know Stan Lee is dead
malek Ehab (10 days ago)
Anne Suba Eparwa (10 days ago)
Keep it here
Lemosse 422 (11 days ago)
number 7 especially makes me rage when my mom says it to me EDIT:and number 8
A lot of these phrases encourage me and all of my friends.
Gremlin (11 days ago)
This is more like my mums to do list
Cora Oettel (12 days ago)
My mom: “your not allowed to be sad.”
Jay 278079 (12 days ago)
I feel like more kids/pre teens/teens watched this then adults lol
Eryn J (12 days ago)
don't tell your teens this Your not using my credit card for your game
This is so ridiculously P.C.
Jessica itc (13 days ago)
Thas right
sharky the 1st (13 days ago)
teenagers are moody
CreativeFox750 (14 days ago)
What phrases shouldn’t ever be said to your teens? Perfect example if I were your kid:Never say this to a gamer child: You’re grounded. It never teaches me a thing other than anger or sadness. It also makes me feel like I’m getting more aggressive by the minute. It also teaches me to be more aggressive to my family.
Stuart Dunlap (14 days ago)
5:27 lol me and my classmates do that sometimes
Phat Huynh (16 days ago)
My stress is the new girl at the school I am her friend and she keeps acting like a 2 year old she’s attached to me and she’s keeps being sassy and whenever I try to talk to her she annoys me and yells
patience Anderson (16 days ago)
My mom says all of these
I think parents will not say “No more iphone!”
Renee McClain (19 days ago)
I don't care how many PHD's are behind someone's name; it do not agree with a lot of these. Our kids need extra love and encouragement, they will never get it anyplace else.
KittyLand 306 (19 days ago)
1 thing you cannot say to teens: *You have chores* Teen: I AINT DOIN NOTHIN I GOT HOMEWORK
The Habiba (19 days ago)
Talks about teens Displays pictures of 6 to 10 year olds 🤦🏽
Manuela Guterraz (20 days ago)
The bonus.
hannah Boumenjel (21 days ago)
Who else is a teen and watched this to show their parents?
Sinned Animations (22 days ago)
Something you shouldnt tell teens? Puberty
My Zorgo (24 days ago)
I hate teens
luca (23 days ago)
What my sister gets for being in the army Your so brave I love you Have a safe trip Be careful in Brazil What I get from my sister and dad Looser Snaggle tooth Lazy chicken. Duck wing Wusabi I know it's wasabi but look how I spelled it wus abia
Elana Davis (24 days ago)
Hurry up is my mom and aunties 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Xavier Brewster (25 days ago)
Fact 3 in fact 1 or my life
abuseLine (25 days ago)
I am sad for you.Why do you think there are parents that behave that way towards their children? Any reasons?
Ischev (27 days ago)
Monica Youngs (27 days ago)
Don't say anything like "let's talk about something else" the teen wouldn't talk to you about their problems they'll think "geez I can't even talk to my own parents about my problems they wouldn't want to hear it
Mud Fox (28 days ago)
Who here’s a teen watching this and debating whether to actually send this to their parents
abuseLine (25 days ago)
Hi! Why do you think parents say those things to their teens, or even before?
Ashlie Boren (28 days ago)
I take good for you as an insult and not all of these work with a teen only a handful will if that’s what works for your child
masetjhaba shangase (29 days ago)
I think I'm the only adult who watched this haha I'm a high school teacher and I just want to give all teenagers going through a rough time a hug and speak to their parents. Some adults forget that they were once teenagers.
No one important (30 days ago)
Do you not realize most teens don't want to talk to their parents..?
Gacha Queen (1 month ago)
My mom always makes me kiss my family even if I don’t want to and if I don’t she gets mad at me
II QuietRiot II (1 month ago)
Some of these are really superficial though.
Eliza Tilsizoglou (1 month ago)
Whatever you do parents DON'T say "its just a fase" for your kid it isn't
snowy paw (1 month ago)
Another thing to never say to kids/teens is " YOU HAVE TO GO TO SCHOOL"
anime anime (1 month ago)
U told my whole LIFE story im 11 and my parents do every thing u said not to do but I don't MIND i still LOVE them
arisu sama (1 month ago)
Totally what understands me
夜宫yomiya (1 month ago)
well my mom always said I need to loose weight which leads me to food disorder
I Animate (1 month ago)
All these phrases really annoys me. My mom did not watch this though.
Northern Lights (1 month ago)
The bonus tho
Venom Animation (1 month ago)
I'm 15 years old boy. If I'm watching this video, does that mean I'm a parent?? XD If it doesn't funny, don't bully me plz T~T
Yeah......my mom says all of these to me
Joseph Izzo (1 month ago)
I have a serious issue with this list I’ve read about and heard these theories and many of them are flawed; based on incomplete information. Like never force a kid to do something that makes them uncomfortable or good job
Joe Rondinelli (1 month ago)
"Don't say 'Good job' to your teens. instead, ask them how they accomplished what they were doing." My mom, " you did a great job on that painting, what made you decide to add that tree in there?" Me, "I added because I did." Asking me how I did stuff is not going to get anywhere with me.
Ella B (1 month ago)
yes because i DEFINITELY DONT LIKE TO BE PRAISED A LOT WHEN I GET LIKE AN AMAZING SCORE?? like if i get like a really really high score on my test or like i do amkazing in an activity i would like to be praised a lot like i mean not regular stuff i mean like if i win a competition or something idc if you think its wrong i dont feel as good about it if my parents act like its nothing at all or its not a big deal
Simon The Great (1 month ago)
No wonder why the teens are soft these days....... Bloody snowflakes
Lost Percussionist (1 month ago)
My mom always say how great I am at doing stuff and I always hate it
Episode Player (1 month ago)
Your lucky your mum cares about what you do at school, I got home today from school and as soon as I walked through the door my mum asked me to go shop for her, not even asking how was my day or how are you
Lost Percussionist (1 month ago)
I don’t get why everyone gets so upset with crushes probably because I haven’t had any crushes
Weirdogirl 127 (1 month ago)
Dad gets mad at me for whatever thing I did. I cry almost instantly and run to my room because he’s scary when he’s mad Dad - DO YOU WANT ME TO GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT?! He’s always had a no-nonsense attitude about things. Still wish he would have at least tried to ask what was wrong when this happened. 😞
Nia Cheishvili (1 month ago)
I am teen and only broblem i have crying 😭 problem,l can cry without emotions (faking) sometimes l cry like it’s just pours from my eyes it come from nowhere
Gacha Girl (1 month ago)
I don’t take the bus
Little Victoria (1 month ago)
Is it bad if my parents always say ALL of these phrases? 😅 And it is true that I do feel pressured sometimes but I never knew why...I guess that I got an answer to that now...? 😂🤔
Oh yeah Yeah (1 month ago)
Literally if my mum/ dad said “don’t be sad” I would literally say *how would you feel if this or that happened today huh?!* gee thanks puberty 😒🖕
Rania Paruk (1 month ago)
My friend wanted a figit spinner and when I said I would give her one she asked if she could kiss me on the cheek and I said yes cause she was my best friend
Antonietta Latorre (1 month ago)
You used kids instead of teenagers
My mother doesnt understand me..... Like when im sad she automatically thinks its my phone and screams at me to give it to her and throws it...... My grandma understand me.... My grandma talks out my issues and helps me..... My mom tells me to talj right and its soool annoying
Havannah Wild (1 month ago)
Huh, you aren't supposed to make kids and teens make forced physical contact. TELL THAT TO MY TEACHERS, dancing can still be classified as physical contact. Right?
Havannah Wild (1 month ago)
I remember crying in public once, the only people that helped me through what I was crying about was my friends. I will always remember that, I think one of my teachers accused me of having a multiple personality disorder as well. I DON'T
Mimikyu (1 month ago)
*Talks about teens* *Shows pictures and videos of 6 year olds*
Blue Rose (1 month ago)
Who is watching this but doesn't even have kids or is even a teen yet?
Drayson Bugghins (1 month ago)
They tell me good things but I know some are not true, they say some of this things/words
Celia Gorleski (1 month ago)
Teens should be able to dress themselves. A lot of these kids in the examples don't look like teens yet.
Nathan Medina (1 month ago)
Bright side obviously doesn't know anything about the hood and how it's like there.
Im 7 years old 2 days left for my birthday....
a local tumbleweed (1 month ago)
Every 12-14 yr old sending this to their mom
Carolyn Colebeck (1 month ago)
#1 is mean
Owen Chiplin (1 month ago)
My parents always compare me to the nerd at school…
sans the skeelaton (1 month ago)
is it bad that I almost never have breakfast?
Trent Chung (1 month ago)
umm i am a kid
Fedora Baloiu (1 month ago)
U realize that none of the pictures had teens in them, they were all little kids😂😂
blue kage (1 month ago)
Ugh when im sad or crying over a small thing, because I've had a stressful week and am on edge, my mom either ignores me or is like why are you crying ? I tell her whats wrong and she'l just brush it off like : it will be okay or its almost week end or its no big deal. And I hate that, my mom is a very generous and caring person but she is a bit of a tomboy and I cant really talk with her about problems or my feelings. Somethimes when I cry over a small thing, she can be really mad at me. For example, we had an argument about school and I start crying because of all the pressure and stress and she will be hella mad at me for crying, because why would you cry. And because of that I really bottle up my emotions and don't like to open up about my feelings...
Madhuri Sutar (1 month ago)
Ur not good as him / her
Big Chungus (1 month ago)
My mom always asks me what my friends got on a test and then compares mine and my friends but if they got less good of a grade then she would say I am not them but if they got better she would ask why I didn’t get as good of a grade as them
Why can’t you be more like your sister/brother? Yelling puts pressure on some people so don’t yell Don’t help them to much they need to be independent for example:I learned to use a stove when I was 7
Draw and Sketch (1 month ago)
This all applied to me and I’m not a teen I’m a pre-teen
Andrea Mitcham (1 month ago)
I'm 8 and I'm watching this but I am mentally a teenager
Gracie22 /classic (1 month ago)
I’m 17 and in foster care. My foster mom is very strict. She should watch this video 😂. But then one of my teachers is too nice. I’m never afraid to take on a challenge usually. I’m glad I’m the only teen/minor in my foster home. I’m also the youngest in my biological family well the ones who are related to me and take me places, except for some of my extended family but they live in England.
Matthew Simmonds (1 month ago)
This video is supposed to be for adults. Why make it look like a kids cartoon and speak to us in a patronizing voice? I can't take this video seriously.
Americans Eagle (1 month ago)
I have an abusive mother
maruca suditu (1 month ago)
Mom is always telling me to do that and that and that... I tell her that I am going to, but after 5 minutes... "Are you done yet?" or she tells me the exact same thing or that she does her job and why I don't.. IT'S SO ANNOYING!!!😣😣
EK. L (2 months ago)
Lol if my parents did any of this i would be happy
Maka Nasrashvili (2 months ago)
i dont eat breakfast ;/
Celeste Pisces :3 (2 months ago)
I just realized, i put my problem in another comment, 😅. So can u check it out and tell me what i should do? Its was, Draw Dragon. Plz, i need help
Comical arts (2 months ago)
My issue is adults, parents in particular, never listen to me because I’m younger :’D
¿Quién más aquí cree que los padres deberían ver esto?
Phebe Youn (2 months ago)
*I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!* - really annoying parent
Latasha Hall (2 months ago)
Angelo Maiorana (2 months ago)
Are you proud of what you created? Why did you choose these colors in this condescending presentation? We look up to you for guidance. Good for you....

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